I’m pleased to introduce a new sub-section of this website, Tea With Louise! You see, I’m experimenting with a new way of blogging, and essentially keeping in touch with friends online; This will be via video and audio blogs, which will be published here, on a Facebook page and YouTube.
I have online friends who, despite best efforts, just can’t seem to find time to hang out. By posting to this blog (and allowing email subscriptions via this blog), Facebook, and YouTube, I hope to maximise the amount of opportunities to share what’s going on in my life. In addition to this, I hope to also host live, private video catch ups. (Although this is still in the brainstorming stage, and hasn’t been pitched to anyone yet.
So without further ado, here’s the first entry into Tea With Louise.
Episode 01: Believing in Yourself
Hi this is Louise,I’m putting this together because well, I’ve turned my life around. And I wanted to let you know I believe you can too.
I’m making this because I want to give people hope.
However, hope isn’t really enough. You need to take action as well. And I will get to the action later on.
But to give you a bit of background: There was a time in my life I was genuinely concerned it wasn’t going to get any better. And by that I mean I was very depressed. I complained online a lot and it wasn’t a good look for me.
And at the time of course, I knew I had talents. But it was very frustrating that it wasn’t of use to the people around me. So I had to look hard to find people who would value what I could do.
Just on a side note: If you believe you don’t have any special skill or talent. I’d like you to open up to the idea that maybe you haven’t discovered yet. I hear a lot of people in this situation say that there’s nothing really special about themselves, and it’s “other people” who do the really cool things. But in my opinion that’s kind of a limiting belief. And that’s a belief you have about yourself, and it’s something changeable if you put your mind in the right way.
But the purpose of this recording isn’t to get you to change your mind. I’d just like you to consider being open minded.
I think one way you can get there is if you’re feeling an affinity for a subject; Something that you’re interested in. Maybe perhaps, move in the direction of that. Get to know the topic more, get your hands on making something, talk to people who may be interested.
And if you’re in a kind of place where you can’t go out. Or can’t afford to go out very much, there are potentially ways you can do that online at little to no cost. There are plenty of online communities out there if you know where to look.
Back to my story… One of the things that acted as a catalyst towards this change was doing an online course in 2017. This online course helped me feel more confident in my talents and it gave me the opportunity to do some coaching with the tutors. And this helped me get the little boost I needed to sell myself better. The thing that helped push me over the edge was going to a live meetup at the end of the year with other people who took the course.
That same year I was freelancing and had a part time job. The part time job was a couple of days a week, but stable. It gave me money which gave me freedom to do things. The part time job acted as a stepping stone to help me get a better full time job in 2018.
Currently at the time I’m recording this, it’s 2019. And I’m still employed in the same full time job I started in 2018. Also this year I have a boyfriend. (This relationship is going pretty well.) Those are things I wouldn’t have gotten if I wasn’t actively out looking from them.
Apart from that, things are still improving. Having a stable job and relationship isn’t the end of it.
I’m still discovering ways to improve my life every day. And one thing I started a couple of months ago was exercising more regularly. In particular I took up personal training and aikido. And, as a result of that, I noticed a lot of improvement in my mental health.
It’s like a stark contrast to how I was before. I’m finding overall I’m in a better mood and not really in a low mood as often or for as long a period.
If you want to have a better life you have to believe in yourself and do the work. And a lot of people will tell you to go and seek a mental health professional to help you, and that’s definitely a good idea.
If you’re one of my friends/family in australia who are listing to this, there are ways to do this at minimal cost with a mental health care plan. And there’s no shame in this. Seeing a mental health professional is totally normal. It’s just as much part of health as any physical ailment.
I would definitely also encourage exercise if you’re up for that; eating water and drinking healthy; And if you’re up for it as well, tidying up your living space can be good for your mood.
Another important thing is to surround yourself with people who make you feel good. And I don’t mean make yourself kind of idol. By feel good I mean surround yourself with people you click with and get a good two-way bond with. And this may mean trying out different communities (whether online or offline) until you find the one that fits you.
In conclusion, the important thing to do is to take action and believe in yourself. Believe in yourself and do the work, because if you don’t take action and do the work, then it’s not going to work.
Being depressed is not a good way to live.
And I’d like you to know that if you’re going through a low period right now, you’re not the only one it’s happened to you. And I would like to ask that you take very good care of yourself and be kind to the people around you. Because even though they might not be expressing anything, you don’t know what everyone else has been through as well.
This has been some life advice from your friend Louise. Take care.
I hope you enjoyed this little talk about believing in yourself.
As much as I enjoy writing and speaking about whatever I feel like, I will also be experimenting with different topics to see what aspects of my life are interesting or not.
Please let me know your thoughts in the comments. If there’s anything you recall about me that you’d like to know more about, I’m open to suggestions!
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